Dealing with losing. Losing hurts, sometimes a lot, recently I went through a loss in my professional career, not a huge deal in the grand scheme of things, but it hurt. I was told I was getting a promotion, and I was asked not to discuss it at work because there was still some I’s and T’s that needed to be dotted and crossed. I told my wife, but other than that I kept it to myself like I was asked. A few days later I was asked to come to the boss’s office, I was sure this was where they were going to officially congratulate me on my new gig. Needless to say that is not what happened, I was told that they were very sorry, but they had messed up on the scoring system and I did not, in fact come in the highest rated and it was a mistake. I was gutted, I am not going to lie, but I tried to keep my best game face on, I said that it was an unfortunate situation and walked out. I gave myself a half an hour to fill shitty about it, I went for a walk and complained to myself. Here is the thing, mistakes happen, everybody makes them, I like my boss and it wasn’t malicious in anyway, they felt bad. Who knows what this will lead in to, I hope something even better, so I will keep my head down and grind through, maybe something better will come along. It is not the end of the world, I still have my job and my health, a great family and a good support system.
My advice is to really feel the emotions you are having, it is okay to feel a certain way, but before you say something or react, try to understand the bigger picture before you blow your lid. Give yourself a moment to think about it, and then press on. Because in the end all we can do is keep moving forward.
Instead I will blow off some steam by hitting the gym, so like always give this gym workout a shot.
3 sets of overhead press (superset this with 8 pull ups between sets)
Pick a medium weight and go until failure (my weights were 135lbs for 11, 115lbs for 10, 95lbs for 14)
Drop 15%-20% and repeat,
Repeat this 1 more time
4 Sets incline bench press (superset this with 8 pull ups)
Reps – 5-4-3-2 at a moderate to heavy weight (my weight was 185lbs)
5 sets of flat bench press (superset with 8 pull ups)
10-8-6-4-2 at a light weight (my weight was 155lbs)
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